Have you ever re-visited something
in your mind, over and over again, hoping to rehearse an upcoming conversation,
or maybe correct one? I find that happens to me as I sometimes put my
foot in my mouth when I speak with one of my kids. I find myself bumbling
through a conversation and when I hang up I wonder, āWhy did I say that?ā
I blame it on the awkwardness of talking on a cell phone, the distance in miles
that limits a heartfelt conversation, or just my inability to remember I was
once their age.
Thankfully, my sister helped me put
things in perspective. Iām not their mother anymoreā¦in a sense. Iām
not here to give advice, unless they ask. Iām here to be a companion in
their journey. To hold on very loosely so they can experience their
lives, just like I had to. I donāt think my parents had much insight into
what I was experiencing when I was 25 or 30. They were living their
lives. And so am I, but I want to be connected to my kids. There is
a difference, though, with connection vs. control.
The Bible saysā¦My dear
brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen,
slow to speak and slow to angerā¦James 1:19-20. But James says
moreā¦ But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open
to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincereā¦James
3:17.
The word sincere really jumped out
at me. Sounds like the opposite of control. Lord, let my
conversation be about them, not me. Let me be sincere. Thatās
my prayer. Maybe, Iāve given them the wisdom they need for right where
they are now. Maybe, itās up to God to bring along other people and
situations that will share insight, instruction and good advice to their hearts.
And if, by chance, He decides to use me, I will do it with His peace, and
gentleness. So here is more to my little prayer. Lord, help me
to be quick to listen and slow to speak, knowing fully my children are in your
hands. Help me to be a good travel companion.
Am I new mom? No, I think I am
a growing one.
Very astute. I am a growing one as well - with kids now ranging from 19 - 31. I could totally relate to this post, and love the verse you used. Thanks for sharing from the heart!
ReplyDeleteaww thank you for this loving reminder.
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